MOMtor Monday: Real Gift Giving

We are so excited to add Jill Savage of Hearts at Home Ministries to our team of regular MOMtors! I (Kathy) met Jill when she was my speaking evaluator at the She Speaks conference last summer. I can tell you she is the real deal and we are so blessed to have her as a regular MOMtor! We think you’ll agree.

by Jill Savage, Regular MOMtor Contributor

Ok, Christmas is just around the corner. Yes, it did come fast; in fact it always is here before we know it. 

Do you have your baking done?  Is your shopping finished?  Do you have the house cleaned?  Are you packed for traveling?  There are so many things to get done to “do” Christmas.  Isn’t it time to let go of some of the expectations for a “perfect” Christmas and really enjoy this time with our families?

I’m issuing a challenge to myself to today, and to you if you want to take it, to drink in my relationships and let go of my “to do” list for this week.  No my gifts aren’t all wrapped yet, but I’ve got a few gifts to give that can’t be wrapped.

I want to give the gift of listening today.  I want to make sure that when my children and my husband speak to me, I look into their eyes.  I want them to feel that they are special.  I don’t want anyone to feel like they are in the way of what I need to do.  They are what I need to do.  Lord, let me give the gift of listening today.

I want to give the gift of time today.  When my granddaughter asks me to play with her, I’m going to stop what I am doing to play with her.  Playing house is not my most favorite thing to do, but it’s hers, so I must value it, too.  I recently heard the convicting response of a young girl when asked what kind of message she would give to parents from a child’s point of view. She responded, “Parents have too many tomorrows.  Tomorrow I’ll play ball with you.  Tomorrow we’ll bake cookies together.  Tomorrow I will play that game.  Most of the time tomorrow never comes.”  Lord, let me give the gift of time today.

I want to give the gift of touch today.  Have you ever gone through the day or the week and realized that you really haven’t given out any hugs lately?   People have the need to touch and be touched. Our children and teens need hugs from mom and dad daily.  I’m going to make sure that my husband gets a bear hug today.  When my daughter comes in to tell me a story, I will try to remember to touch her as we interact.  Lord, let me give the gift of touch today.

I want to give the gift of encouragement today.  I want to make sure I tell my 18-year-old son how much I appreciate the responsibility he has been taking on lately.  I want my 16 year old son to know that I think he has been doing well in his music lessons.  I want my husband to know I greatly appreciate how hard he works to support our family.  Sometimes the people we live with receive the least verbal encouragement from us.  Lord, let me give the gift of encouragement today.

I want to give the gift of Jesus today.  Since we are celebrating His birthday, I want to make sure that we invite Him to the celebration.  When I’m tempted to skip that Christmas Eve service because I still have too much to do, I will resist that temptation, gather the family, and make sure we take time to worship together.  Lord, let me give the gift of Jesus today.

Yes, Christmas is days away.  The gifts aren’t all wrapped, the food isn’t all prepared, and guests are arriving soon.  Yes, some of these things need to be accomplished today.  But I want to do it with my family, not for them. I want to give them the kinds of gifts that can’t be placed in a box and wrapped in red and green paper.

Come on, join me.  Fix yourself a cup of hot chocolate, sit down, put your feet up, and gaze at the Christmas tree lights for a few minutes.  Think about the incredible blessings God has given to you. Thank Him. Ponder the gifts that can be given today that don’t need to be wrapped.  Lord, thank you for the gift of family you have given to me.  

Jill Savage ( is the founder and Executive Director of Hearts at Home (, an organization designed to encourage, educate, and equip women in every season of motherhood.  She is the author of eight books including Professionalizing Motherhood, Real Moms…Real Jesus, Living With Less So Your Family Has More, and her upcoming release No More Perfect Moms.  Sign up for Jill’s No More Perfect Moms New Year Challenge here. Jill and her husband, Mark, have five children and make their home in Central Illinois.

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  1. says

    Absolutely beautiful! Thank you for this, because I’m constantly fighting my own internal battle when it comes to holiday preparedness. As if there’s not enough to do, I add ridiculous things like “Wipe down chandelier, and Magic Erase scuffs off the wall” to my “Things to Do Before Christmas” list. As if anyone’s coming through my door to check out the paint job on my walls.

    I like your idea better: coffee, magazine, ottoman, and Christmas Tree-staring, here I come!
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  2. says

    Hoping this comment gets published! Not sure what happened, but I will try again. Beautiful inspiring words!! Your reminder to focus on the true gifts that are more worthy and valuable than any baked good or store bought gift…is powerful. May we cherish these gifts now and always.
    Chris Carter recently posted..You Are Equipped…My Profile

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